"THE KISSING CHRONICLES #5: CALL ME THE LOVE MACHINE"

Wanna go from geek to God? From freak to chic? And from ho-hum to va-va-voom? It's not as hard (pardon the pun) as you might think.Sex was a new and exciting adventure when we first met our partners. We couldn't get enough of wanting to rip their clothes off any chance we got.

As the years pass (and with the likelihood of children) intimacy becomes more of a chore than a luxury (to some that is) to a point where it needs to be 'penciled' into your schedules. Others who would just love to 'ignite' that 'spark in the boudoir' are way too exhausted at the end of a long day to even begin to think of what gets their mojo going.

First things first, you need to set aside some 'alone time' for yourselves, which means you might make arrangements to do that paperwork tomorrow instead (or if you have kids, let them sleep over Auntie Harriett's house tonight). Anything to free up your time together so you can get the 'privacy' you both need. Becoming a better lover is the key here and with this list I've compiled below you may just accomplish that.

LISTEN TO YOUR PARTNER: Be attentive to their feelings and what they like. Don't fear telling them what you like either. As we all know love making is a give and take and neither of you wants to walk away feeling dissatisfied or incomplete.

BE GENTLE: Our bodies are not like technological gadgets that need to be poked and prodded. Caress your partners body, make them feel like you two are the only people in the world and you'll quickly reap the fruits of your labour when they return the same tenderness onto you.

DON'T FORGET TO KISS: This is probably the most important piece of love making there is! A kiss may appear to insignificant to some but is actually not. It has been said by many a woman that a kiss can determine how good her partner is in the bedroom simply by the way a kiss is executed. So people make your kisses hot and you'll always be sure to feel the flames raging in bed!

BE ATTENTIVE: Men and women have erogenous zones that need tending to. Don't forget to use plenty of foreplay on each other (yes, it's not all about you!) in preparation for the 'fireworks display' later. A little bit of teasing first can lead to a whole lotta pleasing later that neither of you will soon forget! It's the fourth of July again and I love it!

TAKE YOUR TIME: No one said a great lover needed to rush through their work! It's a nice n' slow process. Besides you have the whole night ahead of you so make it last again, and again and again. Did the earth move or was that a tsunami!

SWEET NOTHINGS: Men and women both like them. I mean who doesn't want to be told their doing a great job eh?! As the song says, 'if you're happy, and you know it' be sure to tell your partner! And don't forget to tell them the all important, 'I love you's'. This will make you feel appreciated, deeply cared for and bring you both closer together.

CUDDLE/SNUGGLE: Once the initial 'fireworks' have ended this is a great opportunity to keep the 'embers' still softly burning. Yes, you got it, this is the infamous 'afterglow'! It's always a nice touch to hold your partner tenderly and eliminates the inconsiderate 'wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am' syndrome. You've both taken some much needed time for yourselves so why not continue some good ol' fashioned lovin?! It could lead to more 'sparks' later!

TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT: If the problem stems from a boring routine. Then why not turn it up a notch?! How about a nice relaxing bubble bath together? Or what about a sensual massage with scented oils? Perhaps slowly licking whip cream off your partners body while their blindfolded might be on your agenda? A sexy strip tease even! Anything goes! Be playful and enjoy! Chocolate body paint anyone? Yummy!

The whole world is a pot of chocolate fondue! Pretend you're the strawberries and dive right into a universe of romance and adventure! Go on it's waiting for you!